Choosing the right partner,mature long time married couple

Serious question about finding the right partner for your mature very discreet wife, small town couple with a lot of family and friend making it hard to get away with a lot. Being older and not a regular sharing couple with no real contact in the lifestyle there isn't a lot of candidates or at least it seems that way. We would like to have a regular friend who every now and than would like to take it a bit further with some adult fun, would really like it to be someone we are friends with so we feel comfortable with, best way to approach a friend we have in mind?? We know lots of people don't like to have someone they are friends with but we have done it in the past with a friend and it was perfect for our situation. Anyone else go through something like this, small town, discreet couple with the urge to spice it up a little at a senior age
Thanks in advace

If she is receptive to the idea let her find the guy that she wants and the rest should be easy. My wife picked her first and went from friends to romance to our first mfm. We hung out almost daily with him.

Outside of the private BDSM/ fetish parties that we attended a few times a year from Jan 2015-Oct 2024, we’ve invited (4) friends into our sex life at different times dating back to 1998. All were multiple occasion encounters. We always selected recently separated or divorced men that we know. None of them were very close to us but we knew them well enough to trust them. We are very discrete as well and have never had an issue.

The hardest part is the initial conversation because it’s a lot of trust being placed in the other person. They could very easily not only turn down the proposal but also expose your interest to other people. We’ve found that men past the age of 40 seem to know when they are offered a good thing and are able to keep it a secret. Especially if they are separated because they don’t want anyone, especially their soon to be ex wife to find out. Don’t allow pics or videos and if they do say something, simply deny it. There’s no way for them to prove it.

A great way to start the dialogue is to place a random naked or semi naked pic of your wife on your phone in between pics that you know the other guy would be interested in seeing. Then when you’re with them, strike up a conversation about the topic that the pics support. Watch his reaction when you’re showing each pic and come up on the naked pic “by accident”. He will either want to see more and you’ll be well on your way to opening that conversation or he will turn away fast and have no interest. If he turns away, simply act embarrassed and the whole thing will blow over.

Even if he turns away, he will start thinking about the pic and it will plant the seed for a discussion at a later date.

Wish you were in my town. Who knows maybe you are.

Igotit95.

Don't know where you're located? I am very open to making friends. Lost my best friend this year. Certainly a void to fill. Reach out, perhaps there's a chance for friendship and discretionary mutual pleasures?

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I’ll agree with the OP. Being in your mid 60’s in a small town makes it very difficult to find either couples or quality single guys to mingle with. We’ve tried SLS but not much luck there either.

Agreed late 50s here. I live in a small town thats getting larger however there is a great amount of retired people living in my area but don't seem to have much luck connecting with others whoa be into the same things

Our intimate friends live in other cities.none closer than 500 miles. We incorporate visits with vacations.

Small close knit town?? What could go wrong? Lol.

Wonder why some retired folk buy the RVs...that's why.

E mail me and I will give you a website where you can find people close to you that you might find interesting

The issues with a local friend in a small community. The main issue is if someone discovers what is going on the entire community hears about it. Also, there's a chance a friend develops stronger feelings for your wife.

True story. We have a busiess friend who was happily married. His wife got involved with her girlfriend and the husband for 3somes. The community found out about it and rumors spread. Our business friend ended up getting a divorce. The other couple that was part of the 3some had to move since his business suffered. People didn't want to use his company for obvious reasons. Our businees friend's wife was treated like a witch and even her children stopped talking to her.

Igotit95, Would love to chat with you, and or share experiences. MWC i'm 61 her 60

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Thanks to all for the insight, all comments are helpful and taken seriously.
Texasforlife, Your response is well taken, we have gone over that a few times and it sounds a lot like what could of happened in our case but I stopped it before it got to that point even though he was a good fit for what we wanted. Just knew it was to the point where they were very comfortable together and there was a chance of someone other than the three of us knowing what was going on. He is married and has a successful local business so we ended it even though there was little to no sex outside our house. Thanks again for your input

Igotit,
Totally understand the process.
When my wife expressed her desires to be shared, finding someone was a big question.
Since we lived in a conservative society, approaching and discussing with someone was risky. And we wanted this for fun but we wanted our marriage to be unaffected. Friend or a stranger was a dilema.
So when we listed her criteria, we found that a wht man ( non Indian), 55+ ( maturity and patience), someone visiting India ( to avoid being obsessed) and absolutely stranger. But then that friendship and trust was necessary. So she started chatting with potential candidates. From 50 some guys only 1 worked out. And it turned out that he was friendly person as well.
So result was - she became friends with a stranger from other corner of the world, who came down to meet her and it clicked. He stayed in country and we made arrangements away from home. This worked for nearly two years.

Can share more details over team call, if anyone interested to know more details.

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