Sexless marriage

How do you cope with it . It’s been a year the last time she gave me pussy.

Men spend the first nine months of their live trying to get out of the place where they spend the rest of their lives trying to get back into.

If possible FWB with wifeys okay, If not without her okay or you might have to take the situation in hand.

Join the club.
Dating Rosie Palmer 😅

Get a FWB anyway. She's bailed on you. I gave my wife an ultimatum about a year ago when she tried the, "I'm too old, not so much anymore" stuff.
We're near retirement. Told her I'd start taking 401k disbursements for fun times. Said I'd even show her proof of it. You can divorce me if you want, same outcome. Things got ship shape real quick.

Just try playing with the other team if you don't wNt a female FWB. It's not as bad as you think.

I told my wife when we got married that if I couldn't get her pussy at home, I could always get it elsewhere. She hasn't let me near her pussy for several years and I do find it with other women.

It is a tough situation... alas

I'm only palming it right now but the neglect is starting to wear on me. Bout done with this marriage if I'm being honest.

We’re now in our mid 60s. High school sweethearts.She’s been with a total of 7 other men off and on over the years. Me, I’ve never been with anyone else. Wasn’t something she care to let me experience and I was ok with that. Her doing it was hit enough.

Six years ago she had to have brain surgery. Things didn’t turn out as planned and affected her life in every way both physically and mentally. I’m now her caregiver and still love her dearly. I can’t remember the last time we had sex. I miss it all terribly but knowing she doesn’t have the cognitive capacity to reason I’ve not done anything with anyone. I love her more than anything, people see that and I’ve never gotten any offers because if it. Plus I haven’t gone looking, I couldn’t do that to her. But sure do miss it.

Nor’easter
I Pretty much could have written that ! It hurts. I have possibilities for female companionship. I have done that ( cheated with out her knowledge or approval), yet somehow this is different. Then she was always willing and able, eager even. Now, account onset of dementia, she just doesn’t seem interested in either side of intimacy or just pure sex. And for some weird reason I just can’t bring myself to cheat !
I know if tables were turned I would be okay with or maybe even encouraging her to get relief

I have just discovered this and I mean yesterday.

https://youtu.be/czA7AHaujKU?si=doG1abS3u1rvtpf5

My wife shut down eight years ago. She is 73. She recently started seeing an ob/gyn again who put her on an estrogen cream for vaginal dryness. It has made a remarkable difference. To the point that she has started hinting that we may try penetrative sex soon or as she says "We'll see". But she still has zero libido. Our sex is coming from her being a sweetheart not her being horny. Her next appointment is in another month. I'm going to insist that she mention testosterone to her doc. Women shouldn't deprive themselves of playful sex that they get something out of. It should be fun and not a burden. At the very least, testosterone has benefits other than increased libido. That's the rationale for having the talk. I'm going to talk to my doc too since I like to stay quite active and it's getting harder to do. And, as an aside, The FDA just stated that testosterone replacement therapy for men (and I assume women) has no correlation with an increased risk of stroke or heart attack as previously thought.

And don't listen to the "Your T level is normal for your age" garbage. It needs to be high for your age. Not through the roof BALCO high but high for your age. Normal for your age means your ass is parked in a recliner with a potbelly. FTS

I turned to providers to fill the void, my fav was a spinner who was an ex exotic dancer and in her late 20’s. She would dance and strip to start the session.

I’ve been with a lot of married men who aren’t getting any at home. They’re just grateful that they’re getting their dick sucked. And I like to provide what wifey won’t.

I turned to providers to fill the void, my fav was a spinner who was an ex exotic dancer and in her late 20’s. She would dance and strip to start the session.

^^^^^^ that is weird!

Ask her if she's ok with you getting it somewhere else. You don't know if you don't ask. If she says no the you discuss how and how often she will be spreading her knees apart.

Been there done that
Hire a divorce attorney.

I feel for you as I am in a similar spot.
1 1/2 years since we had sex, 2 times in 5 years!
My sex drive is higher than ever and she knows that I want her as much as when we first met 35 years ago. She always complains of fatigue at bedtime or other excuses when I attempt to touch her.
I come on WL for some pleasure, but it is not the same as being intimate with her.
I do not want to leave her and I know that she gets jealous even when I might interact with other females. I stay in shape for her, but I feel she takes me for granted now. I try to express my needs but it is a nonstarter.
Good luck js2112.

Watch the video!!!! Have her watch the video!!!! She will blow it off at first but have her read the comments. Your number one goal is to embrace her health and well-being. If she has given up seeing an ob/gyn insist she start back. She sould select a younger, female doc that doesn't buy into the hysteria and finality surrounding menopause. Because she is no longer fertile or having her period doesn't mean she is no longer a woman. And a damn good one at that. Learn to compromise. She is probably never going to be hot AF in bed anymore but it doesn't mean you're not able to enjoy each other. When is the last time you, out of the blue, pulled her close and told her you love her more now than you did on your wedding day if that's possible? When is the last time you told her she looks cute in that new outfit? You want her to fuck you again? Earn it again. It's not the end but, trust me, you've lost a step too. Have the talk. Put all the cards on the table then get off your collective asses.

The only place I whine is on here. With her, we're making progress.

Take up golf.

This appears to be a fairly common issue as people get older, with men maintaining a strong interest as their wives lose desire. As a few responders indicated, a lot of older guys turn to stroke and suck buddies after a while and find it helps, a lot! Usually start by receiving, then experimenting with
giving oral and enjoying that also. Not always easy to find a safe and discreet guy in the same situation!

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